Some of the meanest, most belligerent, rude, hateful, and lying people I’ve ever met are in Church. Got your attention? Good. Now, the question is whether I’m talking about you or some distant, uptight church lady who blathers on about whether or not the devil is behind the latest fashion trend.
Sure, a lot of us can buy the “mean, belligerent, rude, and hateful” part — especially if we’ve spent more than five minutes in just about church in existence. After all, what’s a good church group if there isn’t at least one cantankerous jerk who’s complaining that a visitor sat in their favorite pew? Yeah, you know the story. But what about “lying?” That’s a bit of a stretch, isn’t it? After all, isn’t lying a sin?
Let’s not get into whether or not being a general jerk is sinful for right now. After all, it’s kind of required behavior in some groups. Especially any group that has a label that ends in the word “committee.”
But, I digress. I could blather on for hours about committees and mean people, but this post is actually about people who are willing to lie to get their point across. What’s worse, some will spread those lies in the name of “Christian morality.” I’m keenly aware that many of my Christian brethren believe that homosexual relationships are sinful. Fine, believe that. Hold on to that belief all you want. Just stop lying to back it up!
I know, I know — you want facts. No problem.
Let’s start with a few of the more popular lies. I’ve been told that the “gay lifestyle” is “destructive.” First of all, there’s no such thing as a “gay lifestyle.” I have a lifestyle. I happen to be gay. Truthfully, the “gay” part of my life so rarely intertwines with the “lifestyle” part of my life, that to connect the two into some all-encompassing “lifestyle choice” is as absurd as it is just plain stupid. Just cut with it already.
And that “destructive” part? Yeah, I know. You’re probably running through all kinds of “statistics” through your mind. You’ve probably heard that gay people have short life spans. Yeah, I’ve heard it too. Guess what? It’s a lie.
And that’s just one of a mountain of lies, deceptions, twisted tactics, and distortion strategies that has been used by CHRISTIANS in the last few years to demonize the gay community. I’m not irritated that this goes on. Not in the least. I’m downright angry.
My brethren — my fellow Christians — have used these tactics to convince themselves and their friends of parishioners that it’s okay to dismiss gay people into the bowels of hell. After all, God destroyed Sodom because of homosexuality, right? Wrong.
Earlier this year, the big fuss was over the Matthew Shepard act, which would have added sexual orientation to the hate crime laws. Conservative politicians lied about the bill, saying that it would cause preachers to be arrested for saying that homosexuality is sinful. Pastors passed that lie on to their parishioners, without ever once reading the bill itself. Of course, there was a clear clause that protected churches – let alone the First Amendment, but then, that would have been too much truth, wouldn’t it? If you don’t believe me, check out what snopes.com said.
In the last century, the text of a satirical article called “The Gay Agenda” was passed around through mail, TV shows, and eventually email. It was passed as if it were the real thing; the authentic agenda for homosexuals in America. The first sentence of the article, which stated that it was a “pipe dream” and essentially satire, was conveniently left off.
Just how many debunked lies will it take before we start recognizing anti-gay hatred for what it is? It’s bigotry, pure and simple. The first thing that comes to the mind of such a person when the word “gay” pops up is “homoSEXual.” And of course, we all know what kind of SEX is involved. After all, gay people have over a thousand partners on average. Whatever.
Hell, if I had sex that much, I wouldn’t have time to sleep, let alone work. But then, it just takes a little more than truth to cut through the quagmire of anti-gay bias, doesn’t it?
Sometimes, though, these lies are a lot more subtle. Christian leaders will often quote scientific studies to back up their claims. The American Family Association and LifeSiteNews both reported the results of a paper by British professor Michael King, claiming that his research showed that sexual orientation is the cause of mental illness.
Not surprisingly, King rejected their claim, and said outright that they “misrepresented” their review. But leave it to bigoted groups like the American Family Association to twist and distort data for their own purposes. Yeah, that’s real Christian behavior, isn’t it? This isn’t the first time, either. King said:
“Our review did not examine links between mental disorder and homosexual “behaviour” or “lifestyle”. Our work reviewed studies of the mental health of lesbian, gay and bisexual people, and sadly, those studies showed that it is people (not behaviour) that are discriminated against, and not least by religious groups and organisations.”
The AFA has an incredibly long history of lies and distortion – like where they claimed earlier this year that being gay is a “lifestyle” that is “illegal in 48 states” in response to Hallmark’s decision to start selling gay marriage cards. Of course, we’d better not tell them that all of the few remaining sodomy laws were struck down in 2003.
But often, they don’t have to do the distortion – they just get someone else to do it for them. Paul Cameron, who’s had a long history of distortions and data twists, has done more damage to the overall health of the gay community than just about anyone else.
Seriously, folks. If we’re going to discuss the topic of gay relationships in the context of Christianity, can we at least be truthful about it? It’d help.
Special thanks to Truth Wins Out.